The Unspoken Role of a People Manager
When you step into a management role whether by pursuit or promotion, you step in with a certain expectation.
Maybe it’s more money.
More authority.
More autonomy.
A title.
a desire to support, develop, and grow people and teams.
And when the role is described, it usually sounds something like this:
Oversee daily work and ensure tasks are completed
Monitor progress, deadlines, and output
Solve problems as they arise
Ensure productivity and quality
Assign tasks and balance workloads
Allocate resources effectively
Monitor performance and provide feedback
Address issues and conduct reviews
Coach and mentor employees
Communicate goals from leadership
Report progress upward
Align work with company objectives
And wow, that is A LOT! But even so… when it’s written like this, it almost sounds… dare I say, manageable?
That’s the problem. We describe the role in corporate-ease and in doing so, we bring people into management with the wrong understanding of what the job actually requires because what’s rarely included in the job description is what I call the unspoken role and where managers and business run into a lot of trouble.
The unspoken role of a manager
Navigating hard conversations
Managing people means getting comfortable being uncomfortable. You will lead conversations that are awkward, emotional, and high-stakes.
Managing emotions (both yours and others)
Emotions aren’t a distraction from the work. They are the work. You will spend a significant amount of time regulating your own emotions while supporting others through theirs.
Supporting the overlap of work and life
This one is huge. When an employee experiences loss, illness, and life change, they rely on their manager to help them balance and are almost always the first person contacted with something BIG happens. You will need to be able to support employees through life events that impact work.
You are expected to respond with both humanity and clarity.
Leading through constant change
With disciplines like change management becoming well-established this one is more understood but still vastly under-supported for managers. The only constant is change. Change is not an event, it is the environment. Employees look to their manager as a key source of guidance during organizational change. You will need to both navigate change and help your employees do the same, and be a primary source of stability and knowledge through it all.
The point? Yes, you may be responsible for managing performance. BUT have you been taught what to do when someone starts crying in that conversation? Or becomes defensive? Or shuts down completely?
Yes, you are expected to monitor progress and allocate resources effectively. BUT have you been taught how to understand individual strengths…or how to shift behavior that’s impacting outcomes (or even how to notice that shift in behavior)…or how to address a peer whose team is blocking your own?
You’re told to communicate leadership goals. BUT have you been taught how to stand behind those goals when you feel disconnected from them yourself? Or when you know your team is going to have a big reaction to them. Or when you feel unsteady in how to progress to support them?
These aren’t edge cases. This is the job, and when we don’t prepare managers for this reality, we don’t just make the role harder, we unintentionally create ripple effects across teams, culture, and performance. We don’t serve the manager. We don’t serve the employee, and we don’t serve the business in it’s ability to achieve it’s goals and objectives.
If you’re a manager trying to figure this out as you go, you’re not the problem. If it feels overwhelming, please hear me when I say it is because it IS overwhelming. You were just never given the full picture of what happens in between the lines of the job description.
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